It is said that life’s hardest lessons are learned when you are down and out. And considering that I have a good knack of going down more often than out, I presume I have the credibility to give other people free life advice about failing and getting back up again.
I‘m a pro, yo!
So I spent the last few months trying to realize everything that I had compiled in an earlier post. But the biggest lesson I learned this time around is that it is okay to ask for help!
Anne Wilson Schaef: “Asking for help does not mean that we are weak or incompetent. It usually indicates an advanced level of honesty and intelligence.”
A little boy was having difficulty lifting a heavy stone. His father came along just then.
Noting the boy’s failure, he asked, “Are you using all your strength?”
“Yes, I am”, the little boy said impatiently.
“No, you are not”, the father answered. “I am right here just waiting, and you haven’t asked me to help you.”
Yes, this time I asked for help. I stepped out, of my comfort zone, my ego, and literally too, and asked for help. And I am glad I did. I am really grateful to all those who helped me, even though I had little or nothing to offer in return. I am lucky to have such people in my life.
I won’t go into the details now (“It’s a blog, come on, not a cribbing diary!“), but to sum up my upbeat mood of late, as is the trend, I’ll make use of this particular song. The song is called ‘Live Like There’s No Tomorrow’, by Selena Gomez & The Scene, from the soundtrack of the movie Ramona and Beezus.
Thank you, Manali (name changed… “Yeah, right! Like that’s a real name, we know it’s a place, LOL!“), for the recommendation. You made my day, kiddo.
And you, reading this, if you haven’t watched the movie yet, go watch it. If you don’t have a younger sister or a daughter like Ramona, I bet you will start wishing you had one.
The other thing is an email I received a couple of days ago, from one of my friends. This.
Think of it this way: There are two kinds of failure. The first comes from never trying out your ideas because you are afraid, or because you are waiting for the perfect time. This kind of failure you can never learn from, and such timidity will destroy you.
The second kind comes from a bold and venturesome spirit. If you fail in this way, the hit that you take to your reputation is greatly outweighed by what you learn.
Repeated failure will toughen your spirit and show you with absolute clarity how things must be done. In fact, it is a curse to have everything go right on your first attempt.
Henry Ford: “You will fail to question the element of luck, making you think that you have the golden touch. When you do inevitably fail, it will confuse and demoralize you past the point of learning. In any case, to apprentice as an entrepreneur you must act on your ideas as early as possible, exposing them to the public, a part of you even hoping that you’ll fail. You have everything to gain.”
Thank you, Saigiri, for the wonderful and meaningful email. It made my day.
That’s pretty much it for now, folks. Cheers!